I cannot stand some people...

[MorganGrayson]

Originally Posted by PornoDoggy

If you have to get physical with a child over the age of four, you're a piss-poor parent.

If you have to get physical with a child over the age of eight, you've fucked the kid up, possibly beyond repair.

How many kids do you have, CD?

I definitely agree, but I would have dropped the age to two. I held on to the arm of a two year old and spanked her when she ran out in front of a car in a parking lot. Thanks to a driver with quick reflexes and good brakes, nothing happened...other than the two adults involved nearly having heart attacks. I wanted to make a very clear impression that this behavior would NOT be tolerated. I made a rule that while I hauled her infant sister out of *her* car seat, the two year old was to stand with one hand on the car and *never* take the hand off until I told her to.

The inherent problem with spanking is that it's too damned easy to fall back on. You start out with "I'm only going to spank for really big things that could harm them if they did it" then find yourself drifting into spanking for things that are better handled another way. I found myself doing that, and stopped spanking altogether.

[CDSmith]

Originally Posted by MorganGrayson

The inherent problem with spanking is that it's too damned easy to fall back on. You start out with "I'm only going to spank for really big things that could harm them if they did it" then find yourself drifting into spanking for things that are better handled another way. I found myself doing that, and stopped spanking altogether.

If you can drop the spanking all together and have your kids turn out fine then that's definitely the way to go, so agreed in full.

It's such a tough issue though, with so many different scenarios in so many different families, it is impossible to say what the one right way is for all. I'm just saying that I have noticed some changes with kids in general over the years, much of them negative.

I've noticed that people have taken away the teacher and principal's perogative to administer discipline, for example. Then, other people sit there and wonder why certain aweful things happen to their kids at school from other kids and why there is no discipline. It's incredible some of the things that go on, and you hear people say "Well, where are the parents?" more an more these days.

Anyone seen the movie "Thirteen"? Watch it, and then tell me that kind of shit doesn't happen in real life.

Morgan you seem like you're a very good mother and role model. Kudos.

[Red]

Originally Posted by MorganGrayson

The inherent problem with spanking is that it's too damned easy to fall back on. You start out with "I'm only going to spank for really big things that could harm them if they did it" then find yourself drifting into spanking for things that are better handled another way. I found myself doing that, and stopped spanking altogether.

I spanked my youngest stepdaughter once. I should probably preface this by saying when I married my ex he was a widower with 2 girls ages 5 and 9. At the time of this incident I had been a mom for about 2 months.
My ex husband and I had bought this fantastic oak dining room set at an auction and spent days stripping paint and refinishing it. 2 days after it's dry I wake up to a 5 year old sawing away at the table with a steak knife.

I grabbed the knife and gave her a few whacks on the bottom. Her ass turned bright red and I felt so guilty I never spanked her again.