New relationships

[EroticySteve]

I know the game. However, I've been the heartbreaker so many times around. Breaking up wit a girl when I said, "I don't feel it right now but I want to give it time" or "I don't feel this at all, it's best we just be friends".

I mean I've also had it said to me, it would be nice if this is the time when it's mutual.

Damn, so much speculation. I shall keep all informed, as if anyone really cares. LOL

[MorganGrayson]

Originally Posted by EroticySteve

I know the game. However, I've been the heartbreaker so many times around. Breaking up wit a girl when I said, "I don't feel it right now but I want to give it time" or "I don't feel this at all, it's best we just be friends".

I mean I've also had it said to me, it would be nice if this is the time when it's mutual.

Damn, so much speculation. I shall keep all informed, as if anyone really cares. LOL

I do.

I'm an Irish Yenta.

[EroticySteve]

Originally Posted by MorganGrayson

I do.

I'm an Irish Yenta.

Yenta, you don't hear that much outside of NYC.

It's funny I'm in the relationship business and I have always been observant of the ones around me. I've helped many a friend find someone good and I've always helped out. I've had my fair share of good relationships as well.

However, one thing that always seems to catch me is a fear of commitment.

I always think the next one will be cooler, smarter, prettier, more outgoing, more open minded, more focused, more energetic. In many ways i think it does get better, but If I've learned anything, you can make almost anything work.

[MorganGrayson]

The one thing a relationship *does* need is committment. A committment helps you get through those patches when you look at the other person and think "oh, dear." That's normal, but unfortunately, it freaks a lot of people out. Therefore, they miss the next cycle, which is the "falling in love all over again" part. It's as exciting as the first time each and every time it happens.

And yes, you can make anything work. I've always believed you can pick two people totally at random, give them the "rules" and they could make a good relationship out of it.

Most people treat their houseplants with more consideration than they do the most important people in their lives. Good manners seem to fly out the window in a lot of relationships. I'm talking about the absolutely basic things like "please" and "thank you." Frankly, were I a man, there'd only be so many times I'd take somebody out to dinner without hearing a "thank you" before I'd stop taking that somebody out to dinner. And (I'm old here, folks, so my examples are a little...well, the kind you get from old folks) there's only so many times I'd clean the damned house without hearing "gee, everything looks so nice, you worked so hard" before I'd *stop* working that damned hard.

Steve, you found the one thing you absolutely *have* to have. Conversation. If you have that, you can work through anything. There won't be anybody you've ever met that will be better in bed than that woman. Why? You can *talk* to her. If rockets don't go off the first time...talk about it. And then, happily keep practicing until the rockets go off.