After the honeymoon

[Dianna Vesta]

Originally posted by OldJeff@Jun 3 2003, 09:17 AM
I really think that you need to define cheating

Personally I have only ever been in momogamous relationships for my entire life.

However - I have met dozens of people, especially since being in this biz, that are perfectly fine with having a wide open relationship.

I think it is up to the people involved, whatever they decide.

I think that if you do have the "cheat" desire you should be with a like minded partner, or no partner at all - just date people as you see fit.

I think it is much worse to lie to someone.

Ok, cheating is lying. Cheating doesn’t always have to be about sex, right? Trust is something you need in order to know that your partner/spouse is someone who considers all things in the union and can act on your behalf.

I have no problem with open marriages. I think it’s great if two people are really into it. I have, however seen women get involved, desperately wanting love so badly that they force themselves into these situations. There are those unique couples that have unconditional love and can handle being with other people. It’s rare.

Being a very open-minded woman I can honestly say that I don’t personally know any women who would honestly admit that they enjoy being with different people when they are IN LOVE with someone. I can honestly say that any couples I do know that have been into swinging or open relationships have taken bizarre turns where one DID step out of the relationship and have an affair. Let’s keep in mind that it’s not always about sex. A man or woman will seek out a connection that enhances them. An emotional need, intimacy or a spiritual fulfillment.

I can honestly say that I’ve never expected to be in the place I am right now feeling this way. It really makes me wonder.