Please offer any feedback on SE submissions & Auto Submissions

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Hello, what is the norm for submitting to SE's do you submit only once or once per month is there a standard do you get banded if you submit too many times are the software out there that submit to a few hundred SE's any good?

What about auto submitters I am not familiar with these software do they submit to directories and SE's and what do they submit my web site (I only got 3) do they create ready made gallery pages that link back to my main page?

I keep reading that the best way to go is to hand submit to the 25 or 50 top list can anyone list those top sites to submit to and do you submit once or on a regular basis?

Sorry for the 3 part question and thanks.