Stores targeting tantrums

Sin · 12-06-2005

That 2nd article is great too and I love the line about how its the parents that get upset, not the kids... the parents get embarassed I suppose? Ethan (the 17 month old that I babysit) gets taken out to restaurants all the time, when he was just learning the art of a high pitched shrill scream, his mom or I would simply say to him, "No screaming please" and he'll stop. I notice with him that he responds a LOT better if I talk to him like I would talk to anybody with regular comprehension skills instead of assuming he doesn't understand and simply fussing.

I'm beginning to think that the excuse of "parenting doesn't come with a manual" isn't as much of an excuse as it used to have been. Kids to a degree if they are human, are all going to go through basically some of the same experiences, if there isn't a book there should be one... just on the basics.

I don't think it takes drill sergeant to raise polite children. Effort, yes. Patience (and a whole lot of it) yes. Occasionally some drill sergeant tactics but I don't think that should be the first tactical maneuver. Ethan's mum & dad lose patience (as parents do I suppose) and lately seem to start right out yelling at him or using "that tone" and get no response at all. Not sure why.... when I'm babysitting & he starts getting into things he's not supposed to I just use a normal tone of voice & ask him to please not do that & he stops. (But I don't have to deal with him on a daily basis either)

I think in my years of babysitting 2 ADD foster children, one of which had Tourettes, and being the "shelter home" for a year for the troubled kids of my neighborhood, and being lucky enough to watch Ethan grow up I think probably one of the most valuable lessons I've learned through observation & experience is to NEVER underestimate the comprehension levels of children. To me, that goes not only for how I talk to them, as well as watching the things I say around them.

Morgan as much as I don't go to church, that one you mentioned sounds AWESOME! They should make areas like that in restaurants for people with screaming babies... lol Kind of like the glassed off smoking areas hahaha...

Selena I agree 100% that I'd rather deal with an unruly child than an idiot adult ANYDAY. The child is still learning... there's hope there yet! LOL

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Sin My program is online. 90 days to MILLIONS! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 1,278	Re: Stores targeting tantrums That 2nd article is great too and I love the line about how its the parents that get upset, not the kids... the parents get embarassed I suppose? Ethan (the 17 month old that I babysit) gets taken out to restaurants all the time, when he was just learning the art of a high pitched shrill scream, his mom or I would simply say to him, "No screaming please" and he'll stop. I notice with him that he responds a LOT better if I talk to him like I would talk to anybody with regular comprehension skills instead of assuming he doesn't understand and simply fussing. I'm beginning to think that the excuse of "parenting doesn't come with a manual" isn't as much of an excuse as it used to have been. Kids to a degree if they are human, are all going to go through basically some of the same experiences, if there isn't a book there should be one... just on the basics. I don't think it takes drill sergeant to raise polite children. Effort, yes. Patience (and a whole lot of it) yes. Occasionally some drill sergeant tactics but I don't think that should be the first tactical maneuver. Ethan's mum & dad lose patience (as parents do I suppose) and lately seem to start right out yelling at him or using "that tone" and get no response at all. Not sure why.... when I'm babysitting & he starts getting into things he's not supposed to I just use a normal tone of voice & ask him to please not do that & he stops. (But I don't have to deal with him on a daily basis either) I think in my years of babysitting 2 ADD foster children, one of which had Tourettes, and being the "shelter home" for a year for the troubled kids of my neighborhood, and being lucky enough to watch Ethan grow up I think probably one of the most valuable lessons I've learned through observation & experience is to NEVER underestimate the comprehension levels of children. To me, that goes not only for how I talk to them, as well as watching the things I say around them. Morgan as much as I don't go to church, that one you mentioned sounds AWESOME! They should make areas like that in restaurants for people with screaming babies... lol Kind of like the glassed off smoking areas hahaha... Selena I agree 100% that I'd rather deal with an unruly child than an idiot adult ANYDAY. The child is still learning... there's hope there yet! LOL __________________ The new way to sell your Exclusive Video!!