Article : "The Porn Effect"

[MaskTVMaura]

Very interesting article, and one that I can relate to. In my early years, it was totally all about attracting the most attention: getting praise, being desired by others -- looking to others for validation. I think it's a bit of a throw-back to childhood and adolescence when girls look to others to tell them if they are doing things correctly, making the right choices.

When it comes to sex, young women are at the top of the totem pole -- everybody wants to either fuck them or be young like them. And because these women are still using others for personal validation, when they get validated for being sexually adventurous, they think that it's in THEIR best interests when in actual fact they're just letting lots of guys into their pants.

It took me about 10 years of being sexually active before I realized that MY sexual needs were important; that praise for being a good lover to other people wasn't enough anymore. I'm not blaming my lovers for behaving that way towards me, it was my own mentality that set those situations up.

I think the main issue is that young women have the least sexual experience and are way more susceptible to sexual manipulation by others, but are the most sought-after sex partners. The good news is that experience is the best teacher and after several years (and partners), most women figure things out for themselves, without too much harm being done.