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Originally Posted by Mike AI
My experiences over the past few years is that girls in their early 20s want to be dominated, and even manhandled. These girls want to be fucked hard, with agression, spanking, choking, etc... As I reflect back on it I am not sure if girls were like this in college, or that I was not experienced and confidant enough to understand what they wanted and deliver.
Also younger women tend not to be as vocal before hand in what they want. They tend to be shy, or are worried that their partners will think they are "slutty" - which of course to me is a compliment. 
Since I do not get much experiences with older women ( over 30) I think I am missing out on what Serge describes above as POWER. It gets boring after awhile of always being the dominate alpha male in the bedroom. It is the roll I play in the real world all the time, and could use a break!! |
Hmmm, I wish to be dominated yes, but not in a violent way, I wish to be dominated a way that enhances my femininity... not in one that abuses it. I don't wish to be spanked, choked, tied up, or anything else really, I just don't want a guy who is going to turn into a sop in the bedroom over how happy he is purely to get laid ... *YAWN!*
I'm not very vocal in bed I don't think... in the past I've had roommates or some other such individual around in the house, and so I wasn't overly eager to be vocal. I also lived with an older woman for a while, who was SO vocal that one night I got up, went to the downstairs suite, knocked on their door (since it was clear they couldn't be sleeping through the racket) and said "I just wanted you to know *points up* THAT is NOT me!" lol They got a good laugh out of it.
As far as not wanting people to think I'm slutty, in these parts it isn't too hard... lol (at least not by my standards) ...there's lots of sluts around here. If there's guys out there "just looking for a lay" then there's "lays'a'plenty" so to speak. I don't have to add myself to the mix, and I don't. As pointed out in my other post, I appear to be more capable of pleasuring myself than the guys around here anyways. If I have to sleep with many to find one that's halfway decent, I'd rather just ...not.
On the level of a man wanting a break from being the 'dominant' power all the time, that is something that I can understand & relate to... although I still don't think he should need to be blindfolded, gagged, trampled, peed on, tied up, collared, (I own a collar & a leash, and even wear them, although none has ever held the leash except for myself LOL) ...etc.
I've been with guys who want to pretty much just lay there, and it sucks, I figure if I'm going to be responsible for getting myself off, I can do that without them there! I wouldn't even object to a guy who wanted me to play the dominant role in the bedroom *sometimes* but I couldn't make a sexual lifestyle of it personally.