Sedona
I think the only you are going to be able to tell what is 'effective' is trying out different things. There is not 1 definitive answer to your question unfortunatley.
Most amatuers have spend a considerable amount of time trying different approaches like the ones you mentioned. Some worked well for some and not well for others. It really depends on various factors.
The same traffic may convert for you, but not for someone else. The key is to finding the traffic and works for you and then making the most of that traffic even if its just a small amount.
I know it seems like I basically told you nothing and you came looking the "the answer", but there just isn't one
I wish there was.
I am curious---does DreamNet offering you any kind of help with marketing? They have been in the biz a long time, I would assume that as a partner site they would have some area of the girls to view with some ideas, tips, tricks, that sort of thing. Do they not?