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Originally posted by Carrie@Nov 10 2003, 08:58 PM
About a year ago, Kelsey was acting like something wild in a store. You know, the kind of misbehavior where all of the parents turn and look at the child, then look at you with utter disgust.
I warned him over and over. Finally I had had enough. I yanked him up, stood him in the cart and spanked his butt (3 smacks) right there in front of everyone and then told him to "SIT DOWN AND BEHAVE."
It was like everything froze. There were women literally staring at me with their mouths hanging open. The first thought to cross my mind was "Oh shit... one of them is going to call the manager..."
This elderly gentleman was standing about ten feet away watching the entire time. When I spanked Kelsey and everyone just froze and looked at me, this man shuffled up to me, smiled, and actually held out his hand to shake mine and said "Thank you."
Then he turned to Kelsey, wagged his wrinkled old finger in Kel's face and gave him a stern "Now you mind your mother, young man," and shuffled off.
It made me feel really good. I guess he doesn't see misbehaving kids get disciplined too often anymore. I know I sure don't. He had to be in his 80's, or late 70's at least.
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Nice one! I reserve "capital punishment" in my children for situations where it's very serious or they are being ESPECIALLY disobedient.. but it's nice to see parents actually DICIPLINING their children. There's nothing more I hate seeing than some woman with 4 brats running around in a store or restaurant making life hell on everyone else. I think it's a shame that government organizations feel they have to say how and when one can dicipline their own children, and make parents AFRAID to do it! We all grew up just fine.
Some people back in the day took it much more to extremes, but 99.9% of the time one or two well-timed swats to the rear is all it takes. Not beating the shit out of a child, not getting angry and taking the anger out, just showing them what they are doing is VERY unacceptable. Cause and effect. Children jump off a chair, they hit their heads, it hurts, they don't do it again. Cause and effect.
I think the most important thing though is that a child understands WHY they are being diciplined so they don't do it again. A lot of children get in trouble for something and it's left at that. I always appreciate when I see a parent explaining to a child why they are in trouble and why what they did is wrong (if it isn't obvious). That's THE biggest mistake parents make these days... They assume that a child understands, because either they are too busy or too lazy or whatever reason to explain it. I was raised by my grandmother the old-fashioned way, and believe me you when I was in trouble I KNEW what it was for. She let me know in NO uncertain terms what I did and why it was wrong. And most oftentimes, I never did it again.
Nice to see when people appreciate it.
