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Originally posted by Colin@May 14 2003, 09:19 AM
So is there a double-standard [as always]? 14 year old boys have sex because they are horny, 14 year old girls are young, naive, and get duped? I think "society" needs to stop thinking of women this way.
They should be able to do whatever they want with their own body. [? ? ?]. Or no?
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There certainly is a double standard and I am guilty of this. On one hand you want to say, “It’s ok for a boy to be sexually promiscuous. After all he’s a boy, soon to be a man. Women are pure, helpless and easily manipulated.”
When I hear this crock of shit I want to choke someone. When I was 8 years old I began touching myself. When I was 10 I was hiding in the closet with my step-sister playing some nasty doctor game. It’s natural for children to be curious. What changed was when I became a teen, trust adult and taught not to question authority only to have it violated.
I agree with Forest that it’s really the balance of age and the dynamic. If a 14 year old girl in drawn to an 18 year old boy, it’s mostly likely because women mature a little faster then men. If a 14 year old is drawn to a 34 year old man or woman, it’s the responsibility of that adult to protect that child even if that child is curious or make sexual advances. That adult should take in consideration the emotional history or the reason why that may be making those advances in the first place. Instead of selfishly acting on libido and taboo lust, they should graciously decline and perhaps give a positive shove into the right direction. That child is most likely, yet not always, reaching out for love and attention. The most perfect dynamic in the world is to have love, trust and then sex. This is not to say that you can’t have good sex without love, that’s stupid but a 14 year old isn’t experienced enough in life to know what that means. Let them be a kid first, experiment with other their own age and develop their own path with GUIDENCE & DIRECTION.
Damn I went on a rant & I’m still confused. We’d like to say that there is an exception to every rule and perhaps there is. This is one that has a personal agenda.